Is it just the hormones which make boys act like boys and girls act like girls, or is there something more adding to it…
I guess it’s not just nature but also the nurture responsible for the way the kids grow up. Social forces since ages have been pushing these two genders in different directions right from birth.
Words like ‘sweet’ are used to describe a girl and ‘brave’, ‘strong’ are for boys!!! Girls are always taught how to sit properly. Parents may tend to be more sweet and gentle to girls but boys are always played with energetically.
Girls are strong too and have proved themselves every time.
I may sound like a feminist but no, I am talking from both the sides. Why can’t we act a little gentler towards the boys too??
Toys and now chocolates even:
Most toys and now even the chocolates are theme based targeting your child. Creating difference on the basis of colours will definitely impact your child as he/she grows up. Manufacturers are making money by fooling you and creating a gender biased society.
Why dolls and kitchen sets are only for girls and all superheroes, cars and bikes are in the share of boys!!! Or why can’t boys enjoy the role plays of kitchen sets?
If you want your boys and girls to grow up with an open-minded attitude don’t just dress up your girl in pink and boy in blue. Create a colourful wardrobe for your kid, be it a boy or a girl.
Most parents now encourage both the boys and girls to express themselves alike but still is difficult for previous generations to change their attitude. Still, you can find expressions like ‘ladkiyon jaise kyun rota hai’ if a boy is crying. Try to avoid this happening. Encourage your son as well to express his feelings. Listen and try to help him in his troubles. This will not let him grow into an emotionally rigid man.
Rightly said, ‘ Action speaks louder than words‘. You can never teach a boy how to respect a girl if you yourself are facing domestic violence at home each day. Kids always look up on their parent’s behaviour and develop the same.
Girls often get more compliments for their looks and dresses. Why?? Praise your child with what they have achieved and encourage them to keep following their goals, be it a boy or a girl. Look doesn’t matter anymore. It is a thing of the past when the literacy was very low.
To remember :
You can be a big influence on your child’s thinking about gender.
As your child grows, encourage their interests, including the ones that fall outside of traditional gender roles. If your daughter wants to play football or your son wants to take classical dancing as a career option, give them a chance to discover whether it feels right. After all, in the nicest possible way, it’s his life or her life, not yours.